Dating these days has become harder and harder. But just because it’s gotten harder, doesn’t mean that finding the right partner for you is impossible. Ladies, there are still great men left out there. And men, if you’re reading this, there are still great women out there, too. So, how can you go about finding the right partner for you, to have a long-lasting, healthy relationship? One of the best ways to find the right person for you, is through manifestation! Manifestation is using your mind to visualize what you desire, putting it into practice, and allowing the universe to bring that desire to you.
Manifestation can work for attracting the right partner, the right job or career, the right friends, and even helping you find your life path and passions. It can be used for virtually anything! I’m going to show you how to use manifestation to attract the right person into your life. It worked very well for me!
1. Become Your Best Self
Before you even start manifesting, take some time to work on yourself, first. This is important that you do this, and to not rush it. It will be hard to manifest anything if you’re not consistently in the right mindset, because doing so, will send signals into the universe that you’re not ready for whatever it is that you desire, and the universe will not deliver. Becoming your best self is a good thing to do, for everyone. It can lift your spirit and help you spend more time in a positive mindset rather than in a negative one. There’s no specific set amount of time that it will take for you to become your best self, because it’s an ongoing process. However, it can take some time to get used to. For some, it will take a few days. For others, it may take a few months, or even a year or more. And that’s okay. Just work on yourself. Make it a lifestyle change. Like a flower, you will be blooming and growing.
2. Clear Your Mind And Space
Get rid of all that does not bring you beneficial things and positivity in your life. This includes physical and mental things. Clean and clear out your house or apartment of clutter. Throw away old things that bring back bad memories. If you’re not over a past relationship, take the time you need to grieve. Seek out counseling if you need to, as well as support from friends and family. Think about what didn’t work in the past and make a plan to avoid repeating the same history next time. Manifestation will be harder to work in your favor if you’re still hanging on to past pains or not confronting your demons, or not putting in the work to move forward with your life. Work on your physical appearance if you feel you need to. If you’ve been wanting to get into a new weight loss journey, work towards that and start eating healthier, exercising, etc. If it helps, add words of positive affirmation into your daily space, such as wall posters.
Buy new clothes that make you look and feel great about yourself, if you haven’t been feeling too excited about your wardrobe. Experiment with new makeup, if you’re into that and want to try a new look. Try a new hairdo or color if you feel it boosts your confidence. Mentally prepare yourself for a raise in your self confidence. Write down on a piece of paper, all of the things that you love about yourself, both physically and mentally. Use pen, to make it permanent. Maybe you love your smile, and your courage to take risks in life. Or maybe you love your mathematical abilities and talents, as many people struggled with math in school. Write those down. Write down a list of several things you love about yourself (no matter how silly or drab it may sound), and keep it. Own it. Be proud of it.
Then place the list somewhere where you can read over it every day. The bedroom, bathroom mirror, or countertop can be a great place to put the list, where you can regularly re-read it. Consider even putting it up on the wall somewhere where you can easily see it everyday. Read that list out loud to yourself everyday at the start of the day, and even every night before you go to bed. Think about this even when you’re out and about. This will help you to boost your self confidence, it will help you raise your vibrations, and it will help you to remember who you are! Be your own cheerleader!
3. Make A List of Qualities You Desire In Your Future Partner
This is an important part of attracting the right person to you. Make a list of qualities that you desire in your future partner. These can be personality qualities, physical qualities, etc. Get very specific about the type of person that you are trying to attract into your life. If you want someone who is caring, intelligent, and respectful, write that down. If you want to manifest someone who is tall with light-colored hair, write that down. If you want to manifest someone who is outgoing and also goal-oriented, write it down. Write down every quality you want in a partner. Do not write down any qualities that you don’t want. For example, don’t write “Not mean”, or “ I don’t want someone who doesn’t have a car.” Instead, stick to positive thoughts and instead write something like, “My future partner is a kind person”, or, “I seek a partner who has a car.” Keep it positive. Then read your list out loud to yourself a few times. Then close your eyes, and in envision this person. Although you don’t know exactly who they are yet, imagine that person walking right into your life. Imagine sharing a beautiful relationship with them. Imagine you bringing out the best in each other.
Then, put your list aside. Unlike your initial list that I asked you to make about what you love about yourself, this list about qualities you seek in a partner is one that you will not need to regularly review. That is because you’ve already communicated with the universe, what you deserve and desire, and you don’t want to begin obsessing over that list. Obsessing over the list can make you question every person you come across who fits certain qualities, wondering whether they’re the one, which can throw off the whole process. So, once you have made your list, and reviewed and verbalized to yourself the qualities that you seek in a partner, put it aside. The universe has now started working for you. The next thing to do, is to start working with the universe to bring that special person to you.
4. Believe That You Already Have What You Desire
Envision yourself with your future partner already. Envision doing things with that person, such as cooking and eating together, doing your favorite hobbies together, or even relaxing together on the couch. Envision feeling warmth, love, and joy with that person. Don’t worry that you might not know what they look like yet. Just enjoy the moment of feeling good, imagining the beautiful relationship you will have with someone who is right for you, in the future. Get excited about your future!
5. Be Active In Working With The Universe To Manifest Your Partner
Now that you’ve communicated with the universe what you desire in a partner, you must now start working with the universe and doing your part. Your future partner isn’t going to just come knocking on your door after you’ve made your list. Wishful thinking though, right? In other words, you shouldn’t make your list and then just sit there and expect that person to just come find you. Now that you’ve starting leveling up, you’re becoming your best self, and you’ve put it out into the universe what you seek, it’s time to get out there and align yourself with opportunities to meet that special person. How do you get active with this? Think about where you want to start. Ask yourself if you prefer to meet people the traditional way in person, or perhaps, the online way, or both. I highly recommend both. The possibilities are endless, and I highly recommend keeping all of your options open with this.
6. Participate In In-Person Opportunities And Hobbies
Think about the things that you love to do, or things that you have always wanted to do, and start doing them on a regular basis if you don’t already. Maybe you love playing soccer, or basketball. Consider joining a local sports league or practice group. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn Salsa. Consider joining your local Salsa Meetup group. Meetup.com is a great resource for finding groups of people who share similar interests in certain activities as you. Some Meetup groups meet virtually or in-person. If you like to give back to the community, consider joining the local chapter of a volunteer organization, such as a local Rotary Club or even a food bank. Volunteering is a great way to meet new people who are doing good for the community. If you’re religious, consider getting involved in your local church or religious center community.
7. Start Saying “Yes” To More Invites
Imagine your future partner attending a get-together, party, or event that you were invited to but that you weren’t there for. That could be a missed opportunity! The more opportunities you have to be active in your life and meet new people, the more opportunities you’ll have to meet your future partner. If friends or even colleagues invite you out to invites, try to start going more often if you don’t already. After all, you’ve put in the work to become your best self; why not show it off!? Even if you don’t meet your future partner at an event, you can at least still make valuable new connections which can still lead to beautiful friendships.
Always go into attending events with an open mind. Given that we are still in a pandemic and there are still some in-person restrictions, it can be a little harder to meet people in person at this time. So I recommend that you not rule out online virtual events. You can still meet people during the pandemic, online. Consider checking out virtual events as an alternative to connect with new people during this time. Then, if and when you’re ready to meet in-person, remember to practice safe social distancing and try to avoid large crowds at this time. For example, a picnic date at a local park during the daytime where there are still other people around, could be a safe alternative where you and your date could still be in public, but not in a large crowd.
8. Try Online Dating
Online dating has become more popular over the years (and even more so now with the pandemic, according to what my single friends have been telling me), and there are now many dating sites and apps out there to connect with people on. The thought of online dating can be daunting to some. It definitely was for me at first! However, I’ve had some positive experiences with online dating in the past, whilst using manifestation techniques back then. Whenever someone tells me about how scary online dating seems for them, I always tell them that, yes, it can be scary, but I also remind them to try to remember that you can meet a creep in person at an event, and you can also meet a creep online. Creeps are everywhere. You must just be cautious whenever and wherever you’re meeting new people, and don’t ignore red flags. I always recommend being open to online dating in addition to in-person dating because, why limit your possibilities of meeting The One?
When it comes to online dating, and if you decide to use this as an additional route to potentially finding your person, pick a site or an app (or several) that resonate(s) with you, and create your profile. Try to show things about yourself that you love, and love to do, such as your favorite hobbies or interests. This will help to attract the right people to you. Sites such as eHarmony, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, and the dating app Hinge are just a few of many out there. Take yourself and your dating quest seriously; that way, you’ll also be more likely to attract someone who is on the same page as you, and you’ll be more likely to repel people who may have otherwise wasted your time.
An important thing to remember when making your online dating profile, is to not write about what you don’t want in a partner. Remember your list I had you make on what you want in a partner and how I recommended to keep it positive? Do the same thing with your dating profile. Listing things that you don’t want in a partner may come across as negative, and you might attract the very things that you don’t want. This is because when you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re subconsciously attracting more negative situations to you. What we think, is what we attract. So be sure to keep your profile positive, to attract positive.
9. Be Honest With Yourself And Others About What You Want
If you’re seeking a connection with someone with the hopes of forming a long-term relationship, don’t be afraid to communicate that with them. Lying to someone just to try to make them like you or change their views on you, could only hurt you in the long-run. For instance, if someone tells you that they are just seeking casual relationships at this time, don’t lie and tell them that you’re on the same page as them if you’re not, just because you like them. Because chances are, they aren’t going to change their minds towards you anytime soon, and even if they do, the chances are low that it would be with you and not someone else.
Although sometimes casual relationships do lead to long-term relationships (there are always exceptions), is that truly worth the risk of pain if casual is not what you truly want? This could only lead to you getting hurt and preventing yourself from meeting the right person for you who could be ready to pursue a connection that could lead to a meaningful long-term relationship. If long-term is not what you want, then communicate that with them as well. If you meet someone who tells that they aren’t on the same page as you, believe them and move on. There is someone else more fitting for you out there. Never settle for less than what you feel you deserve, and don’t accept what you don’t want.
10. Keep Your Options Open
This applies to every aspect of your dating experience. Don’t put all of your eggs into one basket until you’re sure that the other person is on the same page as you. I recommend keeping your options open in the early dating stages for many reasons. First, it gives you the opportunity to still focus on yourself and continue learning about yourself and living a busy and active life. When you are focused on yourself and keeping a busy life, your energy is more dispersed between yourself and other aspects of life, including the people you’re dating, and not just to one person. When your energy is dispersed, you become protected from spending too much of it on any one person, aside from yourself.
When you’re just starting to date someone, the last thing you want to do is put all of your eggs in one basket and become overly invested in this one person who may not yet be on the same page as you. Consider dating more than one person at once at the beginning. Doing so can help prevent you from getting too invested in any one person and creating too many expectations in your head about them too early on. This also gives you more time to get to know each other. As time goes on, you’ll probably start to realize which person you’d want to take things deeper with.
While dating, remember to keep yourself busy in your own life.
Don’t neglect your friends or your family during this time. Don’t give up the things that you love just for a new person you may be dating. They will subconsciously feel your energy as desperate energy and it will more than likely repel them because it will feel to them, as if you have no life outside of them. So try to be mindful to not have your dating life revolving around someone. Keep your life active and busy (continue doing your volunteering, sports, hobbies, or whatever you love), and things will naturally fall into place with the right person on both sides.
Still make time for them ( you don’t want to make them think that you’re not interested), but don’t change your whole schedule or life around for them. In other words, don’t lose yourself in the dating journey by giving all of your time to any one person. Let them know when you are busy and when you’re free so that they understand that you have a life of your own. This way, you can compare schedules, fit each other into each others’ schedules, and have success in dating. And if that’s the right person for you, it will work successfully because you’ll both naturally put in effort to nurture the relationship connection between the both of you.
11. Don’t Rush Your Journey
It may feel like you want to meet the right person right away when you start getting active in attracting your future partner. And who knows, maybe you just might meet them right away, because everybody’s life path and love story is different. But don’t rush; take your time. Even if you do meet that person right away, take the time to get to know them. You might even meet a lot of people, and that’s great. But get to know people, and still work on learning more about yourself in the process.
Keep an active and busy life that caters to yourself and important things in your life first, before anything else. Continue leveling up and becoming your best self, even when dating. The level up process never ends, because there is always something new to learn about yourself. So take your time, and try not to rush your life. Remember, the universe is working with you. If you’re rushing, it can derail your entire process. It can also land you in bad relationships and situations that are not right for you. So take your time and just enjoy the moment.
12. Evaluate How You’re Feeling
When you meet and date the right person, you’ll know! You won’t be wondering whether or not they like you, because it will be apparent. You won’t have to chase them or play mind games to try to win them over. No matter how busy the both of you are, you’ll likely find yourselves fitting each other into each of your hectic schedules. They will be interested in you, for you, and only in you, even if they were initially dating other people as well. You will no longer feel the desire to date others. It’s important at this time then, to stop dating other people, and date only the person who has consistently shown you that they are right for you. This is a good time to have a talk with this person if you both haven’t yet, to ensure that you’re on the same page and that they too, are no longer dating or planning on dating any other people other than you at this point.
You won’t find yourself having to cancel your important plans for this person or give up what’s important to you, or do things that would exhaust your energy for them; they’ll understand that you live a busy and active life, and they’ll respect that. And hopefully you will also give them that same level of respect as well, as this is important for setting the foundation for a healthy relationship. You’ll both likely come to an agreement of the dating style(s) and schedules that work best for you both. When it’s the right person, your connection won’t be forced, and it won’t be abusive in any way; it will be natural. You might look back to your original list of qualities you made for what you seek in a partner, and notice that most or even all of those qualities you initially wrote, are qualities that this person has.
Final Thoughts
Manifesting your future partner may take time. There is no specified exact amount of time that it will take because it’s different for everyone. It’s important to trust the process of your manifestation journey and be consistent in your self-growth and level up lifestyle shifts. You will have many good days, but you will also have occasional bad days where things may not go your way in some area of your life. It’s important to always remember why you started your journey in the first place, and get yourself back on track if you find yourself feeling discouraged.
I hope that these tips on manifesting the right person for you and leveling up were helpful for you, and that you are ready to start your journey if you haven’t already! If you enjoyed reading this article, feel free to visit my Instagram page, and be on the lookout for more content soon!